To me, it’s really exciting to have the first mother in the White House. It’s not about the first woman, it’s about the first mom… Because a mother, she’s got it. A mother just does it. She feeds you, she teaches you, she protects you—she takes care of shit.
In his recent appearance on Conan, Louis C.K. somehow managed to both dismantle the patriarchy and reinforce it all in one monologue. Just as the spectre of the “Mommy Track" haunts professional women aspiring to attain senior leadership, so does a stigma of childlessness. In Britain earlier this summer, Andrea Leadsom, the leading contender against Teresa May for the Prime Ministership, withdrew shortly after implying that she, as a mother of three, had a stronger stake in Britain’s future than May, who has no children. One of the great goals of feminism has been a society that defines women by more than their ability to breed—and one of the most important keys to that has been the ability of women to control their fertility.
This is not to say that having kids doesn’t infinitely complicate a working woman’s life—they do, and the coping strategies women must adopt to stay afloat in a nation that utterly fails to support new parents and children are legitimately awesome (and should be completely and totally unnecessary, to our national shame). C.K. is right about this: Being a working mom probably did give Hillary a skillset that no previous president has ever been able to claim. But let’s not forget that there is much, much, much more to being a woman than having children—or else we fall into the trap that it’s motherhood alone, or at all, that gives women leaders the edge over men.